I just gotta say something before i ask a question, you're like my writing idol. I'm serious. I love your writing more than any other author's work I've ever read. im sorry but i just seriously love you and your writing fmgkutfgft Now onto the question, how do you remember the conversations you guys have? Like honestly, im trying to write a story based on a part of my life but im having trouble remembering the conversations. Help??
Well, before I answer your question, I just gotta say that I am:
- shocked
- humbled
- elated
- shocked
- thrilled
- speechless
- shocked
about your message and kind words! I’m not even sure that list does justice to how this made me feel. Ever? Really??? That’s not possible, is it? Haha. Thank you - seriously. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I’m rarely speechless… but I don’t even know what else to say.
On to the question…
Conversations are tough. In fact, a big part of the reason I’ve always said these are 85% non-fiction/15% fiction is because of the dialog. Some conversations you legitimately do remember word-for-word, be it because they occurred with someone special or because they had to do with something special… maybe they made you laugh or cry or experience some other emotion. Those are easy because you only have to fill in the little bits - you can remember the important parts.
As for the rest, well… in my opinion, the individual words themselves aren’t as important as what they’re expressing. Did I say “hell no!” during that conversation or did I say “I think not!” isn’t really the main reason for writing through dialog - the fact that I said “no” in some way is. So what I do is take a few factors into consideration and then run with it:
Who’s talking?
What do they sound like?
What little quirks or idioms or patterns of speech do they frequently use?
What sort of dialect and/or accent do they use?
How does their speech flow?
With that, you can imagine how a conversation about almost anything would go in your head. Combine that with the story you’re trying to tell, and you can craft a dialog that might not be word-for-word what was said, but it could have been. You don’t even have to be present to be able to create dialog like that!
So, if you’re trying to write about conversations you were actually a part of, it should be easy if you don’t worry about nailing every single word exactly how it was spoken, but instead, try to focus on the main point of the conversation. What was significant about the conversation that makes it worth writing about? Who expressed what emotion or thought or idea? Knowing what you know about them, how would they have expressed those thoughts or ideas?
Toss in the answers to those other questions from above about how they literally speak (and a little artistic liberty) and presto: dialog.
Main point: it doesn’t have to be exact as long as it gets the message across.
Hope that helps!